Ephesians 4:29
New International Version (NIV)
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
Communication as we all know is necessary to keep any relationships strong, healthy, and happy. In marriage, communication is like life-giving water, wherein the absence of communication between the husband and wife is like having giant dam built to block the flow of water. This barrier causes everything to suffer and die just like a relationship that little by little will ruin because of a lack of communication.
Building communication is essential to keep every relationship healthy. It helps you and your partner understand each other. It is indeed that both men and women naturally communicate differently. Therefore, it is necessary to know your communications styles because once both of you know your styles; you will work together as a team to make your relationship blissful.
To succeed a better communication, take a look at yourself first. When things get wrong, and relationship does not run smoothly, go through your actions first before pointing out to your partner. It is true that it is easy to see other people’s mistakes, but this cannot make your relationship better. Effective communication entails you to look at yourself first and accept your fault. Remember that better communication is not about who is right or wrong, but it is about helping each other to see things from each other’s viewpoint to avoid arguments.
Listening improves communication
The main key to a healthy relationship is communication. But why so many couples said that communication does not seem to work in their relationship? Perhaps there’s the main ingredient that is lacking in your communication – listening.
Listening is essential in communication to improve your relationship. As a matter of fact, listening seems to be an easy thing to do, but most of the time it becomes the most missing ingredient that will put any relationships into turmoil. Listening is indeed different from hearing. Listening involves dedication and full attention to your partner. Listening is more on learning and paying attention to every word that comes out from your partner’s mouth, because in listening involves the willingness to understand each other’s point of views. On the other hand, hearing is just using your ear to recognize the sound. Therefore, listening is an important in an open communication rather than hearing.
Remember that all communication must be open, sincere, and lenient to keep your relationship healthy and happy. Once both of you understand and know your communication styles, it would be easy for you to resolve whatever conflicts and stressful misunderstandings in your marriage.